Any tips or advice on how to be more outgoing? Any advice is appreciated!?

I am almost 17 and I have trouble speaking to new people and trying new things. Any tips or advice on how to be more outgoing? Any advice is appreciated!Any tips or advice on how to be more outgoing? Any advice is appreciated!?
Well, I think the best way is to put yourself into a situation where you wouldn't normally be comfortable. Kind of force yourself into it--Make sure it's something you are obligated to do, though. Like volunteering somewhere? You know you won't back out of helping at the food bank or the library or the animal shelter and you'll be forced to start interacting with those around you. I used to be shy as a kid, but that's the last thing I am now. I talk to anyone anywhere. You almost have to force yourself to get out there. When you go new places, introduce yourself. Trust me, nobody is going to think you're weird if you do. If you don't, they might think you're a snob, though. Remind yourself of that. Talk to the person who looks as shy as you. You'll end up making both of you feel more comfortable. Talk to someone while you're in line somewhere. Ask the person behind you if they are ready for the holidays--the conversation will flow from there. Practice makes perfect, but you need to make yourself do it or you'll be 30 and still shy. Usually the more outgoing people are, the better liked they are. You'll need those skills when you get to college and into the working world, so start working on them now! You can do it!Any tips or advice on how to be more outgoing? Any advice is appreciated!?
You have to really force yourself to change a few things, but if you follow these simple steps it will help a lot. I know because I used to be horribly shy (and still am on the inside!).





For one full week smile and say hello to two new people everyday. Then increase it by one person a week for the next three weeks.


Make sure you look directly at people when you are talking to them, no looking down!


Work on developing good posture, head up, eyes front, shoudlers straight. Seriously, use a book on the head method if you need to, it is a tryed and true way to work on posture.


Why the posture? Because when people have good posture and a direct look they look confident, a confident appearance causes people to respond to you in a very positive way. The positive responses actually make you feel less shy and more confident.


The smiling and saying hello forces you to interact, after a while that becomes a habit and you will do it without thinking. You don't have to converse if you don't want to, but I promise people will start initiating conversations with you!


Good luck dear, just remember one thing a little shyness is very becoming for woman, but too much shyness will keep you from enjoying a lot of things in life.
View the information and weblinks for social anxiety/shyness, and self confidence, in sections 9, and 38, (also section 28, on change) at http://www.ezy-build.net.nz/~shaneris Here is an exercise that can help you. It is called ';Act as If.'; When you are in a social situation, act as if you are outgoing. Talk more, smile at everyone, ask questions, speak in a normal or excited tone, not a meek tone. Watch some of your outgoing peers, and imitate the style of their social behavior. (I PRETEND that I'm an ACTOR, PLAYING a PART).





Research shows that when you ';act as if'; continually, your image of yourself begins to conform to your new behavior. In this case, you will gain self-esteem and self-confidence, and begin to see yourself as socially normal, not shy. You will become more socially successful, and this will motivate you to continue your new social behavior until it becomes a habit. Try this for a month, in every situation you can. I am confident that you will become much more comfortable and outgoing. One form of therapy is to go somewhere that nobody knows you, and deliberately make an utter fool of yourself: put on a paper hat, and scream out: ';I'm queen/king of America!';, or something else ridiculous, then get back in the taxi, (warn the driver of your intentions, first) or car, and leave.





People will point, and say: ';Look at that idiot';. But, you're probably not up to the stage where you can do that, yet (I can, and I used to be shy). It will teach you that, although it isn't actually pleasant, (EXPECT MODERATE DISCOMFORT) you will survive; be stronger for the experience, and the next time (should you need to repeat this type of therapy) will be considerably easier. Remember: ';A fear avoided is a fear strengthened; a fear faced is a fear reduced.'; Regard it as your final test: once you have accomplished it, the barrier will be broken; just don't go too far, the other way! Learn to laugh at yourself, and give a big, cheesy grin when others see you do something foolish, as we all do, occasionally. It is endearing, if you don't do it too often. Use positive affirmations: for example: ';I am very likable and other people feel comfortable around me';.





Write down all of your self limiting beliefs; then write down the positive counter of them, (exact opposite) and repeat them and imprint them into your mind. Most importantly: Force yourself to approach somebody and initiate some sort of communication. Start out small by asking the time and directions and gradually go bigger. Although there are anti-anxiety medications (anxiolytics) available, these come with risks, and the possibility of side effects, habituation, even addiction, and withdrawal problems, and are unsuitable for young people.





Try having a cup of ';Tension Tamer';, herbal tea, by Celestial Seasonings, (from supermarket tea, or health food aisles) or make some at home, and cool, then bottle, and drink as needed (I find it so strong tasting, that I need to drink it quickly, followed by something like fruit juice, to take away the taste, but others may find it more tolerable). C(h)amomile tea is a more palatable option. As with all herbal/green teas, use lemon/lime, and/or a little sweetener (NOT ARTIFICIAL!!!) but no cream, or milk.





Xylitol, or Stevia is preferable, (health food stores) or fruit sugar (fructose, such as ';Fruisana';, from supermarket sugar aisles). Valerian has also been recommended, but some people experience ';valerian hangovers';. Ensure you know how you react to it, before doing something potentially dangerous, like going out on the roads. The idea is to use the above like water wings, to provide initial, short term support, while you become proficient in those techniques. 40% of people are fairly suggestible. http://www.hypnosisdownloads/ has many: SEARCHBAR - ';social anxiety';. Try something new, soon, but safe, and start off small, then slowly work up..
My advice is really simple. Try new things and meet new people. The only way to get over being nervous and introverted is to do things that put you out there socially. Join clubs in school, socialize when you can, participate in activities. In doing these things you address both of your problems...meeting new people and socializing with them.


It worked for me. I joined the army,worked as a corrections officer and now am a nurse..I interact and talk with new people all the time.
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22And ye now therefore have sorrow: but I will see you again, and your heart shall rejoice, and your joy no man taketh from you.





23And in that day ye shall ask me nothing. Verily, verily, I say unto you, Whatsoever ye shall ask the Father in my name, he will give it you.





24Hitherto have ye asked nothing in my name: ask, and ye shall receive, that your joy may be full.





John 16:22-24





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