Wednesday, December 23, 2009

Best advice/tips you were given when pregnant or about your newborn?

Im due Fri and am seriously bored!!! So im asking for some the best advice/tips you were given whilst pregnant.Best advice/tips you were given when pregnant or about your newborn?
Ignore any advice from someone who hasn't had a baby in the past 10 years.





Leave the congratulations cards up for as long as necessary to hide the dust.





Enjoy being bored now - come Friday you won't be.





Have some decent stuff recorded to watch duuring sleepless night - we had Diagnosis Murder!





Ofcourse I'm not a mum, but a Dad to a three year old and 18 months old but still vaild advice I think.





All the best.





Dan.





Also - buy Bepanthan (think that's how it's spelt) for nappy rash.Best advice/tips you were given when pregnant or about your newborn?
All the best to you too.

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Listen to Advice.. But don't take it too heart that is the best advice I had from my grandmother. And I remember that talk like it was yesterday.. She said many people will tell you what to do but it's your baby and you will know what to do in your heart..


So my advice to you is listen to your heart when it comes to the baby.. I will never lead you wrong..


Good Luck with the new baby~
the best advice i was given when i was pregnant was to take any pain relief offered when i was in labour and not to try to be a hero!
sing, plan for the baby's arrival, watch tv, call someone (you havn't talked to in a while)
Don't clip baby's nails for first 30 days, the skin is still attached until then.
when i had my first son, i would call my dad all the time, dad he's crying, dad he wont stop, dad i think he is sick and so on, my dad would say give him a warm bath, i would , whatever the problem this would help, it always calmed my son, and helped the situation, it was years later that i realized dah, he was always giving the same answer, i guess i never thought about it because it always worked, so i guess when all else fails give a warm bath, my mom said one day when i was crying because everyone was giving me advise and telling me what i was doing wrong she said tell them thank you i will take that under consideration, love your child trust yourself,
I read 3 modern books on child raising and the best advice I came away with was be 1. Open Minded. 2. Remember the child is going through his/her developmental stages. 3. And when teaching them how to walk and do stuff later on don't let them fall too much (a couple of normal falls is natural). It gives them a better concept later on about success and self esteem if they succeed and stuff.
Some babies just cry....that's what I had to learn when my little guy was first born: I would feed him, change him, bathe him, bundle him, UN-bundle him and nothing stopped his crying, not even rocking or his pacifier. So, sometimes, they cry for no real reason other than to make some noise...it doesn't make you a bad parent.
From my mother: Always have an infant pain reliever in the house (like Tylenol).


From my grandmother: Just enjoy your baby. Cuddle him every chance you get. Even when he's screaming in the middle of the night, remember - babies grow up SO fast. They're only at this stage for a short period of time, so enjoy it while you can. Because once they're mobile, you'll never get a moments rest!
i know you have probably heard this but get as much sleep as possible!





pamper yourself now!while you can!





go out with the girls! Im 20 and I never get to anymore! granted I love my son more then anything-but i wish I had more time to do things with the girls!





everyone told me to put my son down more often but i couldnt i felt bad! he was constantly attached to me!! Now hes 3 monthes old and always wants to be held. which makes it impossible to do anything-including shower!


Also put your baby in its crib everytime they go to sleep. They get use to being held and forget about it-no sleep for you for a long time! My son would fall asleep ONLY if he was on my chest or in my arms. I wouldnt sleep ever and if i did id wake up in a panick knowing he could be in danger if i did fall asleep with him on me!





Mothers do know best! Dont rely on a doctor to point things out to you about your baby. They see them for a few minutes each visit.your with them all thet ime so you know if they arent themselves so if you think they spit up too often and too much tell your doctor! dont pass it off.I told my doctor some symptoms my son was having and he passed it off like nothing-I researched it after 2 months of hearing it was nothing. He ended up being Colic with a bad case of Reflux.


I brought this up with my doctor and he wasnt convinced of the reflux just the colic. I fed my son right before we left and he spit up in the office-the doctor was then covinced he was due to the amount and the pain// sour look on his face and the screaming that followed. he was in a ton of pain that they were over looking it.


*Bring up anything and dont think if you call them to ask a question that they will get annoyed or think your nuts-they are use to first time parents.





get into a nighttime routine!





not all medication they give to babys will work. My son was put on Mylicon Drops for his gas and it made it worse!


so did Zantac..








When your in the hospital see if the nurses can show you how to check your babys tempature rectally. Ive had to several times and was terrified!





If you do your laundry yourself and you live in an apartment. Carrying the laundry and the heavy laundry detergant can be tough on your belly! i use to detergant it in a single water bottle instead and just bring that down the stairs! no tipping over for me!





Also when you have the baby-you will begin to miss their socks. they can go missing in the laundry..i keep a small draw string bag or a lingerie bag attatched to the side of my sons hamper and when i am done with his socls i toss them in there then while i am doing his laundy i toss the whole bag in. no losing socks.no dropping them and picking them up weith your hand full!


I did this towards the end of my pregnancy with mine and my oyfriends thingsalready difficult for me to bend over to take the clothes out of tjhe machine-so dropped socks or under garments were actually that much more work to pick up!





lastly make sure you fasten the ends of bibs. the velcro will destroy knitten blakets sweaters sheets etc!





hope some of this helped!
Sleep is more important than housework. A little dust will not kill you.





Accept any help offered.





Family and friends will want to visit the new baby - get them to ring and check it's ok before coming over rather than just turning up.


Your house, your baby, your rules - if you've had enough, visitors can always leave and come back another day. Don't feel obligated to entertain them, kick em out if necessary.





You will get plenty of (often unsolicited) advice which is can also be conflicting - everybody and their dog has an opinion on how you should be bringing up your baby - take advice with a pinch of salt.
listen to music by mozart


You could visit my website, http://www.learning-graph.com , which has excellent resources for children activities, children's diet, confidence building, skill building.
Best advice im going to give you, sleep when your baby is sleeping and enjoy the early months as much as you can because that is the easiest time ever! Well it was for me! also if you end up with a screamer try not to get frustrated as the baby picks up on this and screams even more, also dont feel guilty to let your baby cry sometimes, i let my son cry and i watched other ppl do the opposite, their kids will cry the instant they want something and the mother goes running and child has a big grin! I.E spoilt, my son understands that crying if he wants a toy or summat will get him nowhere! But in all honesty enjoy early months as now my little lad is 18months and the day is much busier than when he was a newborn, get a bouncy chair that vibrates and your newborn will be so content just sitting there watching the world go by or sleeping!





Best of Luck xxx
Buy LOTS and LOTS of these:





http://www.walmart.com/search/search-ng.鈥?/a>
For birth-expect the most horrendous pain imaginable and then double it and keep an open mind.





For newborn-sleep when they sleep and take every bit of help you can.
someone told me about La Leche League when I said I was going to breastfeed!





talk about a lifesaver... between answering curious questions and actually helping me with a huge problem when my daughter was 9 days old that otherwise would have meant me stopping nursing.... I'd be a much different type of parent and person had it not been for them... my daughter is almost 5 years old, weaned at 18 months, and I'm still involved with the group!!





my 2 favorite breastfeeding sites:


http://llli.org/resources/assistance.htm鈥?/a>


http://kellymom.com/bf/index.html





ETA... oh, and to be weary of baby trainers!! any parenting book that wants you to impose something onto a baby does not understand the biology and psychology of newborns... baby parenting books should help you understand what a baby needs, and how to meet those needs w/out forcing them to do what you want, when you want. (like never use the babywise program, the AAP actually warns parents against it's use!!! but I saw it still the other day on the shelf at BabiesRUs)
Congrats! Walk as much as you can it makes labor easier/shorter. I have 2 children I walked a lot with both pregnancies my 1st labor and delivery was only 4 hrs 2nd was only 2 1/2. Even though I'm not sure what labor would have been like if I didn't walk I believe walking was why it was so short. Everyone I know that didn't walk had very long labor. Also I went all natural I was not induced. Good luck!

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